Dear Abby: My husband and his buddy found the ex-girlfriend’s message hilarious. I did not.

DEAR ABBY My husband of -plus years received a Facebook message from an old high school girlfriend Related Articles Dear Abby He s a great guy but nobody wants to go to his house Dear Abby I required a fresh start with my daughter but things haven t turned out that way Dear Abby The new neighbors encroached on us then explained we re the challenge Dear Abby My son was joking around and the other kid s parents billed me for the damage Dear Abby My granddaughter is a nightmare and timeouts are no use The message was wildly inappropriate extremely risque and ended with her offering to fly out and meet up if he ever desired to When my husband saw the message he read it to me and to his best friend who happened to be in town visiting Those two guys were snickering so hard they were crying They thought it was the funniest thing ever while I was thinking she has a lot of nerve My husband wrote back and declined her proposition But later that night I was doing particular internet sleuthing Who wouldn t Abby she is a marriage counselor Her message went from being a former flame s cliche message to repulsive on so various levels She of all people should know better I m itching to give her a piece of my mind What do you think PERPLEXED IN PORTLAND ORE DEAR PERPLEXED If you really feel inclined to contact your husband s old girlfriend choose your words meticulously Tell her that when your husband received her message he read it to you and his best friend who happened to be in town visiting and although the two of them were howling with laughter you didn t find it funny Then close by saying you are disappointed that someone who is in a helping profession would stoop that low Mic drop DEAR ABBY My husband and I are retired and happy Each of us was married before We re not rich but we get by without help from anyone We have been fortunate with a big family Between us we have six children grandchildren and a great-grandchild This does not include the in-laws because quite a meager of these offspring are now married I am bothered by the sense of entitlement that seems to run rampant in this group We never receive a thank you for anything we do for various of them whether it s a birthday graduation shower gift wedding or an acknowledgement for a funeral Bulk of them are old enough to have better manners than that but it doesn t seem to matter I have bitten my tongue on more than one occasion When we tried to stop sending gifts we were called out on it by the two worst offenders We don t want to give because we have to We want to give because we want to And while we may want to give we don t want to feel underappreciated either Any advice UNAPPRECIATED IN INDIANA Related Articles Asking Eric It took him a year to ask why I wasn t coming around anymore Harriette Cole I keep falling asleep at the office How can I stay alert Miss Manners Can I tell them I plan to get rid of their gift or is thank you sufficient Dear Abby He s a great guy but nobody wants to go to his house Asking Eric This workplace event is hanging over me a year later DEAR UNAPPRECIATED Just this Feel free to unburden yourselves to the worst offenders Tell them in plain English that when a gift goes unacknowledged it makes the giver feel the gesture is unappreciated and you don t like feeling that way Make it clear that if they cannot summon up the strength to practice basic good manners you will find another way to spend your money I cannot make your relatives change but if you do this you may be able to wake them up Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA